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Printer-Friendly ModeColumnist misunderstands role of sex in relationships
submitted by Jeffrey Grubb
February 26, 2007 —
Mary, life is all about killing time between the moments you are having sex.
I'm not saying sex has to always be meaningless, but there is nothing wrong with an occasional unleashing of one's libido. There is plenty point to having sex with someone if you don't plan to call them back, let alone spend the rest of your lives together: it feels good.
I also take umbrage with your assertion that premarital sex is immoral. On what grounds do you make this statement? How is it that two consenting adults engaging in the activity of physically pleasuring one another hurt anybody? Perhaps you base your morals on some outdated text that doesn't apply anymore. I base my morals on one simple rule: if it hurts someone emotionally, physically, or monetarily, it is immoral.
You are working backwards from some idea that sex is evil if not blessed by God, but sex is exactly the same if you are married or not. Plenty of people have healthy and brilliant children out of wedlock and plenty of married people have sex with no intention of procreating.
I'm certainly not saying that you shouldn't wait; I'm just saying that sex is fun and important to a healthy relationship. You wouldn't buy a cow before tasting the milk, would ya?
After all, what is the point in NOT having sex with someone if you aren't going to spend the rest of your life with them?
Jeffrey Grubb